Triple A: Allyship, Amplification and Advocacy
What does allyship look like? It’s if you see another woman being interrupted in a meeting, saying, you know, “Hold on. Hold on, Steve, I don’t think that Shakira was quite done with what she was saying”. If an idea is stolen, doing the same thing looks like “Hey, Lisa, I don’t know if you did it, if you recognize this, but Tiffany just brought that idea up a couple of minutes ago. Tiffany, would you continue?”
Amplification is making sure that if there’s an idea or if there was progress made, that you’re amplifying somebody’s voice, saying, “Gosh, you know, when so and so said this, it was really great”.
Advocacy is throwing people’s name in the hat, really saying, “Gosh, I think they’re ready for this project,” or, “I think that we should send them to that conference” and thinking about this as how we can be triple A in our relationships with people who are from underrepresented groups.
Let’s put a stake in the heart of mean girl. I would say the other thing to do is, if you hear this myth being replicated, if you hear, “Oh, women don’t support women,” take a stand. I’ve done this at a couple of different women’s conferences where someone will bring this up and it’s important to remind them that by acting in this conference we are in fact supporting each other.
Challenge people to go through that exercise of the last 100 interactions that they’ve had with men and with women, and how they will see that there are an equal number of jerks by gender, and not continue to feed this beast. So challenge it, be triple A, and flip the script. I hope that each one of us can do our part to put a stake in the myth of the heart of mean girls at work.